Anonymous Mummy Blogger

Feeding your baby : Some things I wish I’d known before having our first baby - a mini blog post. These thoughts are based on my own personal experiences. Other mums will probably be able to add plenty more things to this post, dependant on feeding choices and experiences. But here are my thoughts... There will be people around you with all kinds of different opinions about your feeding choices, and none of them matter. What matters is how YOU feel, and what you and your family feel will be best for you and your family. Nobody prepared me for the staff on the post natal ward nagging me to hand express my tits to try get that precious liquid out for my baby. Nobody prepared me for the staff members regularly dangling tiny syringes in front of my face and urging me to get on with it. Nobody prepared me for the staff member asking if she could show me how to do it either. The possibility of saying no to that never crossed my mind, due to fear and exhaustion, but looking bac...

For Maternal Mental Health Awareness week (#MaternalMHMatters) I’ve decided to write a post about my experiences of being a childhood sexual abuse survivor and becoming a mum for the first time. It is my hope that it will raise awareness of some of the difficulties that can arise during pregnancy and beyond, and also show others with similar experiences that they are not alone. My partner and I have always wanted children, and this pregnancy was planned. It took me a long time though to decide that I was “ready” to try for a baby. For a long time, I felt as though I wouldn’t be able to care for my baby in the way he or she would deserve. I felt as though I would be a bad mum and that my baby would not be safe with me. I felt as though I would destroy this innocent child’s future, based solely on the fact that my own childhood was destroyed - because I blamed myself for the sexual abuse I endured. It felt very logical for me to connect the two things - it was my fault I was abused,...